Justin Clark is a man who will have to do aĀ lot of queuing up outside his own bathroom for at least the next 18Ā years.
He may have Toby the labrador and Sox the catĀ as male allies, but thereās no doubt the 43-year-old is well and trulyĀ outnumbered by women these days. And he couldnāt be happier.
Just over a month ago, he and his wifeĀ Christine, 36, brought home their now three-month-old quadruplets ā all girls āĀ from the special care unit at Rotherham Hospital.
Proud parents: Justin and Caroline Clark brought theirĀ four three-month-old daughters home from a special care unit last month- andĀ theyāve had their hands full ever since
Miracle babies: Caroline, Darcy, Alexis and Elisha wereĀ born at 30 weeks after their mother was hospitalised
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Caroline, Darcy, Alexis and Elisha were bornĀ prematurely at 30 weeks and they are very special babiesĀ indeed.
After nearly a decade of trying, the coupleĀ had almost given up hope of becoming parents and had resigned themselves toĀ being childless. It was their first round of IVF that proved successful ā quiteĀ spectacularly.
And that is not the only reason the quads areĀ extraordinary. Incredibly, they are also the result of just one embryo after itĀ split into three and then one of those embryos split into two.
The odds of one embryo creating four babiesĀ have never been calculated. āPeople have quoted odds of two million to one andĀ even 70 million to one, but itās simply not quantifiable as itās never happenedĀ before,ā says Justin.
āWeāre the first people itās happened to andĀ even some doctors find it hard to believe.ā
To say the couple are shell-shocked is anĀ understatement. Mothers of multiples often say parents of single babies āhaveĀ absolutely no idea how hard it isā.
Having given birth to identical twin girls 11Ā months ago, Iāve said it myself through gritted teeth lots of times.
So itās with a mixture of profoundĀ admiration, curiosity and a tiny bit of commiseration for the sleep they willĀ never regain that I meet Justin, a lorry driver, and Christine, aĀ nurse, atĀ their three-bedroom ābut oneās only a box roomā semi-detachedĀ home in the SouthĀ Yorkshire village of Brinsworth.
The only evidence of the babiesā presence areĀ the dark circles under theirĀ parentsā eyes. But echoing from upstairs thereāsĀ no mistaking theĀ fragile bleating of a newborn demandingĀ attention.
āExcuse the mess,ā says Christine needlesslyĀ as she leads me into a room strewn with šššš¦ paraphernalia.
Long-awaited: The precious babies were the result of theĀ couplesā first round of IVF. They are the result of just one embryo after itĀ split into three and then one of those embryos split into two
All four tiny girls, still weighing onlyĀ around 5-6lb each, are snuggled up like dormice in one cot.
Three are fast asleep, but Alexis is testingĀ her lungs to full capacity. Gently, Christine picks her up, cuddles her and sheĀ calms down. Mumās clearly a natural.
But then she and Justin have waited a longĀ time to become parents.
āYou wait nine years for one šššš¦ and thenĀ get four at once,ā smiles Christine. āWeāre just so lucky.ā
Justin and Christine met in a pub 12 yearsĀ ago and married three years later. Like most young, married couples, they longedĀ to start a family.
āIād always wanted to be a mum,ā saysĀ Christine. āI donāt come from a big family, but children were always on theĀ agenda. We started trying before we got married, but nothingĀ happened.
āI was only 25, so I didnāt panic.Ā But afterĀ two years we went to our GP who did lots of tests. It turnedĀ out I hadĀ polycystic ovaries and would probably need help to getĀ pregnant.
āIt was veryĀ upsetting. Friends were gettingĀ pregnant and while I was always happyĀ for them and never jealous, I would beĀ thinking: āWhy isnāt it happening for us?āā
The couple tried several treatments,Ā including the ovary-stimulating drug Clomid, but the side-effects made ChristineĀ ill.
āIVF was really a last resort because we knewĀ what a rollercoaster it could be,ā she says.
āPeople donāt understand unless theyāve doneĀ it, and we discussed whether weĀ wanted to put ourselves through it. It was ourĀ finalĀ hope.ā
Justin and Christine were referred to CareĀ Fertility in Sheffield, and were offered two rounds of IVF on theĀ NHS.
The coupleās fears were realised when onlyĀ two of Christineās eggs wereĀ collected for fertilisation. Sadly, one of thoseĀ eggs turned out to beĀ too immature to be used.
Wedding day: Justin and Caroline married in March 2004.Ā After a nine-year wait and discovering Caroline has polycystic ovaries, theyĀ turned to IVF
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āI was devastated,ā says Christine. āIĀ couldnāt believe that Iād put my body through so much to get only one chance. IĀ know women who get about 12 eggs and I had only one shot at it.
āThere was a moment where I really did think:Ā āWhatās the point?ā But as our midwife told us: āYou only need oneĀ egg.āā
Once the embryo had been implanted, ChristineĀ was told it would take 12 days before a pregnancy test confirmed whether it hadĀ worked. Perhaps inevitably, she couldnāt wait that long.
āI cheated and took the test on day ten, andĀ was absolutely shocked when it came out positive,ā she says.
āIn nine years of trying, Iād never had aĀ positive pregnancy test. I couldnāt believe my eyes.
āI took the test downstairs to Justin, whoĀ said: āWhat does that mean?ā IĀ told him to read the box and when he had, he wasĀ speechless.ā
By this point, the couple dared to believeĀ they were finally going to beĀ parents ā to one šššš¦. It was seven weeks laterĀ that they were given the most astonishing piece of news.
āI was lying on the scanning bed and theĀ sonographer was looking at theĀ screen, but not saying a word,ā says Christine.
āI felt sick thinkingĀ something had goneĀ wrong, but she quickly reassured me that I wasĀ definitely pregnant. Then sheĀ said: āI can see three sacs ā youāreĀ having triplets.ā
āI was in total shock. So was Justin. TheĀ sonographer wanted a second opinion, so she asked us to go to the waiting roomĀ and sheād get a consultant toĀ confirm it.ā
Justin says:Ā āWe sat outside and all weĀ could hear were the staff buzzing around us,Ā saying: āItās triplets, itāsĀ triplets!ā It seemed to be an eternityĀ before we went back in thatĀ room.
āAs the senior consultant Dr Shakar scannedĀ Christine, he looked closely at the screen and then said: āYouāre not havingĀ triplets ā itās quads.ā We were gobsmacked. And so was he!
āWe all saw four little heartbeats. I keptĀ counting them in my head āOne,Ā two, three, fourā, but it was too much to takeĀ in. Weād gone from having no babies to four babies in one go.ā
Any multiple pregnancy is fraught with risk,Ā but four foetuses meant fourĀ times the danger to mother and babies. The medicalĀ experts confrontedĀ the couple with a stark decision.
Fatherly love: Mr Clark dotes on 11-week old Alexis. HeĀ has stopped working as a lorry driver to care for his four daughters
āWe were offered selective termination onĀ several occasions ā where the doctors would have aborted two of the babies toĀ help the remaining two survive ā but we were against it,ā saysĀ Christine.
āWe wouldnāt have had to choose which babiesĀ were terminated ā the doctors would have done that for usĀ ā but Justin andĀ I donāt believe inĀ abortion.
āEven if there had been something seriouslyĀ wrong with the babies, I donāt think I could have lived with getting rid of twoĀ of them.
āThatās also the reason why we didnāt takeĀ the test for Downās syndrome. We knew it carried a risk.
āIād waited too long for children and didnātĀ care what happened to me. I was prepared to risk it.ā
The pregnancy was far from easy and ChristineĀ suffered from severe morning sickness.
āIt was horrific,ā she says. āPeople said toĀ me after my 12-week scan āYou should be full of energy nowā, but I was beingĀ sick morning, noon and night. Iād even wake up in the middle of the night andĀ throw up.
āJustin wanted to find out the šāÆš of theĀ babies at 20 weeks, but I said: āNo way.ā If the pregnancy was going to be thisĀ hard, I wanted to have a lovely surprise at the end of it.
āBy this point weād got our heads around theĀ fact we were going to have four babies. We had no idea how weād afford it. ButĀ people have been so generous and donated clothes, pillows and even a rockingĀ chair.ā
Christine was admitted to hospital for bedĀ rest at 24 weeks and the twins were delivered by Caesarean section at 30 weeksĀ on March 25, weighing between 2lb and 3lb each.
One in two million: The miracle babies get through moreĀ than 200 nappies a week
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āWe had more than 42 staff and took up twoĀ surgical theatres,ā she says. āEveryone wanted a front-row seat. When the babiesĀ came out, they were whisked into a side room and Justin went withĀ them.
āIt was upsetting for me as I was desperateĀ to see them, but I didnāt get anywhere near them for 24 hours. That wasĀ hard.
āJustin took 253 pictures of them to show meĀ because I went straight to high dependency. The babies had bruised my lungsĀ because theyād been kicking me so hard.ā
Christine left hospital a week later, but herĀ daughters remained in special care for nine more weeks until they came home atĀ the end of May. āI couldnāt wait to have them home,ā Christine says. āI wantedĀ to be their mother and look after them here.ā
Now they have been home for more than a monthĀ and life has changed beyond all recognition.
Justin has left his job to help care for hisĀ daughters and plans to be a full-time house husband.
āItās pointless me going back to work becauseĀ my wages would not even cover the childcare,ā he explains.
āIām looking forward to it. After all, beingĀ a long-distance lorry driver and a full-time carer of quads is very similar.Ā Youāve got to work long hours, the work is very monotonous and you canāt takeĀ your eyes off the ball for a second in case there is an accident!
āIām chief nappy changer anyway ā I changedĀ more than 25 yesterday ā and it doesnāt faze me.
āI know which girl is which because IĀ memorise what they are wearing in the morning. But sometimes Christine tricks meĀ by changing their top. Iāve been caught out a couple of times.ā
The couple are not relying on state benefitsĀ apart from the statutory Ā£60 a week child benefit.
After a yearās maternity leave, ChristineĀ plans to go back to work part-time because her salary is higher than herĀ husbandās.
Today, they are surviving on snatches ofĀ sleep, the benevolence of family and friends and hand-me-downĀ clothes.
Volunteer nursery nurses are helping themĀ care for the children, too. The babies get through more than 200 nappies a weekĀ and at least one box of formula milk every 48 hours.
Admirably, Christine managed to expressĀ breast milk for the first seven weeks before an infection prevented her fromĀ continuing.
āThe babies feed every four hours, but itĀ takes at least an hour to feed all four of them, so by the time youāve finishedĀ youāve only got two or three hours until the next feed,ā saysĀ Christine.
āItās tiring, of course, but itās not theĀ kind of tiredness that comes from work. Itās really worthwhile.ā
Logistically, itās a nightmare. Anyone withĀ one šššš¦ will know that leaving the house can take for ever. Whatās it like withĀ four?
āIf we go out, we take two tandem prams, butĀ if we have to drive I take the four girls in the car and Justin has to walk orĀ get the bus! We went shopping the other day, and managed to get out of the houseĀ in just two hours!ā
The comments the couple receive fromĀ strangers will be familiar to any mum of twins or triplets ā
āYouāve got your hands full thereā or āOooh,Ā double/triple/quadruple the troubleā.ā.ā.ā
āI love the fact that people come up to usĀ and say nice things, but I do feel like saying: āYes thanks, I know!āāā smilesĀ Christine.
āSomeone asked me the other day if we wereĀ going to have any more children. I think the answer to that is absolutelyĀ not!ā